I would recommend a soft gray...see photo below...

Take photos of your cabinets and space with you when you shop for granite. Another Idea is to visit Home Depot or Lowes and buy some Single 12x12 granite tiles as samples just to get an idea of what might work. They have lots of choices. Not exactly what you want but close enough to help you zero in. The tiles can then be returned.

You list is all "stone" products. Stone products are natural. The durability is guaranteed with stone. Stain resistant...remove marble and granite from your list. Both can stain and etch and both will do this with "flooring" more than they will with a counter top. Gloss levels all change...but it will take years to do it. All stones have maintenance = homeowner needs to work at keeping stone looking good. Stone = expensive. There is no "benefit" for "reasonable" when working with stone. They all cost plenty of money. Stone is expensive. No way around it. If you want "glossy" that doesn't stain for a "good price" then you have forgotten to mention the BEST option: porcelain tiles. Porcelain will do everything you want for a lower price. Stone is expensive, it can stain (especially "oil" stains) it will "etch" or lose gloss level with certain liquids (acid based liquids will do this) and they all need to be maintained and eventually need repolishing to maintain "gloss". Durable is all you can expect out of stone. The rest of your wish list belongs with porcelain tiles.

The backsplash near the hob should preferably not be glass as the heat produced near the stove causes the glass to break due to continuous heating and cooling which makes the glass crack over a few months... Pavithra Praveen Pravisree Kitchens Bangalore