10 Steps to Culling Keepsakes (That Aren't Worth Keeping)
It can be hard letting go of sentimental objects, but this guide should help you through the process, so you can reap the benefits
Laura Gaskill
5 December 2014
Houzz Contributor. I cover decorating ideas, Houzz tours & the monthly home maintenance checklist. My favorite pieces to write center around the emotional aspects of home and savoring life's simple pleasures. Decluttering course + discount for Houzzers: https://www.lauragaskill.com/welcome-houzzers
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Old photographs, hand-me-down tea sets, knitwear, school art projects – we all have some variations of these items, just sitting in boxes, waiting for … er, what is it they are waiting for, exactly? A day when you will suddenly wake up and feel a need to riffle through baby clothes and silver spoons? While I am (sort of) joking, the truth is that we will never look at many of the ‘important’ items sitting in boxes in storage. We keep them because we are emotionally tied to these things, and because when we see them we cannot bear to get rid of them. What if, by editing your keepsakes, you were able to process your past and free up emotional space to live a richer, healthier life in the present?
By carefully and intentionally examining each object, you can end up with a more special and meaningful collection of truly important items worth keeping. If you’re feeling ready to take charge of your keepsakes and heirlooms, these 10 steps can help guide you through the process.
By carefully and intentionally examining each object, you can end up with a more special and meaningful collection of truly important items worth keeping. If you’re feeling ready to take charge of your keepsakes and heirlooms, these 10 steps can help guide you through the process.
1. Prepare yourself
For less intense clutter-busting sessions, it may be enough to put on some music and spend a random chunk of free time tossing things. Dealing with emotionally charged keepsakes is another story. Find a time when you’ll have the house to yourself and get ready to focus for several hours or more, depending on how much stuff you have to go through. I’ve found that the decision-making process works like a muscle – the more you use it, the easier it gets. So spending a longer stretch of time decluttering is easier, because you will get better (and faster) at making decisions as the day goes on.
For less intense clutter-busting sessions, it may be enough to put on some music and spend a random chunk of free time tossing things. Dealing with emotionally charged keepsakes is another story. Find a time when you’ll have the house to yourself and get ready to focus for several hours or more, depending on how much stuff you have to go through. I’ve found that the decision-making process works like a muscle – the more you use it, the easier it gets. So spending a longer stretch of time decluttering is easier, because you will get better (and faster) at making decisions as the day goes on.
2. Get the object on its own
Staring into a box of items will only cloud your judgment. You’ll find yourself tempted to toss – or keep – the whole lot, instead of figuring out if you really care about the items inside. So the first thing you should do with each piece you are considering is to get it on its own. That means you will be dealing with one photo, one plate and one piece of knitwear at a time, and evaluating it on its individual merits (and ability to pull at your heartstrings), rather than lumping things together. It may seem like a lot of trouble, but it’s the only way to make informed decisions about what to keep.
Staring into a box of items will only cloud your judgment. You’ll find yourself tempted to toss – or keep – the whole lot, instead of figuring out if you really care about the items inside. So the first thing you should do with each piece you are considering is to get it on its own. That means you will be dealing with one photo, one plate and one piece of knitwear at a time, and evaluating it on its individual merits (and ability to pull at your heartstrings), rather than lumping things together. It may seem like a lot of trouble, but it’s the only way to make informed decisions about what to keep.
3. Touch the object
Now that you have the object on its own, pick it up and touch it. If it’s a blanket or knitwear, wrap yourself in it or bury your nose in it. Get your brain out of the way for a moment and allow your senses to fully take in the object.
Now that you have the object on its own, pick it up and touch it. If it’s a blanket or knitwear, wrap yourself in it or bury your nose in it. Get your brain out of the way for a moment and allow your senses to fully take in the object.
4. Assess your feelings
Once you’ve touched the object, put it down and assess how you feel about it. When you touched it, did you feel joyful, content, sad, guilty or disappointed? If the object carries negative emotions for you, or if you didn’t feel much of anything, give yourself permission to let it go. The only keepsakes you keep should be ones that evoke strongly positive emotions.
Once you’ve touched the object, put it down and assess how you feel about it. When you touched it, did you feel joyful, content, sad, guilty or disappointed? If the object carries negative emotions for you, or if you didn’t feel much of anything, give yourself permission to let it go. The only keepsakes you keep should be ones that evoke strongly positive emotions.
5. Answer the question, “Am I done with this?”
Do you want what this object represents to you to be a part of your story going forward? Or are you ready to let it go? Trust your gut reaction and don’t overthink this.
6. Consider others
Does this object belong to someone else, or might someone else in your family want it? Don’t forget to check with that person before discarding something that could potentially be quite meaningful to him or her – but don’t let it languish in your storage area anymore, either.
Do you want what this object represents to you to be a part of your story going forward? Or are you ready to let it go? Trust your gut reaction and don’t overthink this.
6. Consider others
Does this object belong to someone else, or might someone else in your family want it? Don’t forget to check with that person before discarding something that could potentially be quite meaningful to him or her – but don’t let it languish in your storage area anymore, either.
7. Say goodbye
It may sound a bit silly, but actually saying goodbye to the objects you’ve chosen to let go of can help bring a sense of closure – not only to the lightening of your space, but to the emotions you are choosing to let go of, too.
8. Remove the objects from your space
Do not delay this step! Chances are, if the objects sit around in your home for any time, they will find their way back into your closet. Physically remove them from your home today.
It may sound a bit silly, but actually saying goodbye to the objects you’ve chosen to let go of can help bring a sense of closure – not only to the lightening of your space, but to the emotions you are choosing to let go of, too.
8. Remove the objects from your space
Do not delay this step! Chances are, if the objects sit around in your home for any time, they will find their way back into your closet. Physically remove them from your home today.
9. Affirm your trust in future abundance
If you’re still feeling conflicted at this stage, or are letting doubts creep in about whether you really should have let those things go, now is the time to affirm your trust in the future. These things represented your past. You are done with them. The space that you have created – in your closet and in your heart – is now open and ready to receive new, unexpected, abundant joy. By letting go of the past, you are saying yes to your future.
If you’re still feeling conflicted at this stage, or are letting doubts creep in about whether you really should have let those things go, now is the time to affirm your trust in the future. These things represented your past. You are done with them. The space that you have created – in your closet and in your heart – is now open and ready to receive new, unexpected, abundant joy. By letting go of the past, you are saying yes to your future.
10. Celebrate
This stuff is not easy to go through, so be sure to treat yourself to tea and cake (or a glass of champagne) when you’re done! Going through emotionally charged mementos may be best done alone, but when you’re done, it helps to connect. Why not have a party with your nearest and dearest, and display some of your keepers around the room to spark conversation?
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What emotionally charged objects are you having a hard time letting go of (even though you want to)?
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This stuff is not easy to go through, so be sure to treat yourself to tea and cake (or a glass of champagne) when you’re done! Going through emotionally charged mementos may be best done alone, but when you’re done, it helps to connect. Why not have a party with your nearest and dearest, and display some of your keepers around the room to spark conversation?
TELL US
What emotionally charged objects are you having a hard time letting go of (even though you want to)?
MORE
The Clutter Conundrum: Why Is It So Hard to Let Go?
Clutter Busters: How to Accumulate Less
Clean Living: Declutter Your Way to a Minimalist Home in 7 Easy Steps
11 Look-at-Me Ways to Show Off Your Collectables
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I have a saddle in the garage. I have not owned a horse in 16 years. I am 70 and probably should not be on them anymore as a broken bone is more likely as one ages if there is a fall.
Saddles are one of the last handmade complex objects in modern society. They are expensive and unique. There it sits unused. I could sell it for $500 any day of the week. A new one costs many thousands. I had been saving it for my grandson who lives on acreage but he seems the sort who prefers machinery and they don't have a horse.
Of course I have other clutter but this is a large item that does need a new home.
Cora, I had to give two of my father's saddles away when he passed. One went to a horse rescue and one went to a children's riding therapy center. Felt really good.
Cora, donation is a great idea, if you can do it.... I couldn't part with the saddle I bought (used) in 1984. At the time, I viewed that $350 purchase as such an adult thing. I kept it even though it no longer fit any of my horses and wasn't 'in style'. It was in fabulous condition and reminded me of every horse I ever rode in it. I probably would have kept it forever - making my kids get rid of it - until I found an amazing artist who made beautiful purses for me out of it and some strap goods. It took me a while to actually send the saddle off, but I carry my main purse every day and haven't regretted the transformation one bit!! It was pricey, but worth it to me. https://www.calyse-co.com/